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Forgive and Forget

Hello people,

Friday night means blog time!!
 Angry?
Hey remember that person you hate to the core! That person you can’t wait to slap,
That friend who betrayed you, That another man who said awful things to you. Those who looked down upon you, made you feel so little….People who broke your little heart into million pieces. Those heartless creatures.
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Are you grinding your teeth already Angry Bird?? 

I know I know people can be real bad sometimes. So what are we going to do about it?

After a lot of thinking, I chose forgiveness as today's topic .
To forgive means to stop being angry with someone for a mistake or wrong deed they did to you.


Almost all of us have atleast one person we never want to forgive or love again.

Even I had. Since it was never easy for me to stand and fight face to face, all I used to do is imagine like I defeat them. I picturize like I am becoming a big shot and giving an interview in TV ,while they sit at home and watch with their jaws dropping. Trust me I used to do that often ( Note: When I was a immature little kid) whenever I get reminded of people who put me down.Sounds silly but that's my way of dealing with my anger. 

Its not just me ,most of us carry anger in our heart. And one of our highest goals is to prove these people wrong.To make them feel sorry for what they did to us. 
So what Happens?
After years of anger and resentment I thought "What is the point? " seriously what is the point of all the drama we go through or all the big plans we make or all the waiting for the "Sorry" that is never gonna come?

That's when I realized - me being angry with someone is useless!!!. While I spend my life with resentment, they are happily enjoying their lives.I thought being angry with them is a way of punishing them. Actually the truth was I was punishing myself. I felt powerless, because I had myself given the control to my happiness to them.I forgot to notice the good things in life.
Waste of lot of time and energy and good dialogues( which could have made a better punch line in a movie).
Researches say holding anger can cause from headache to cancer depending on how long you are holding it!.

What is the best thing for you? 
I don’t mean to say when someone does something wrong to you, You have to stand like a wall post without reacting. But being angry with someone for months and  years  is certainly of  no good.Regretting is something they have to do on their own,its not our duty.We have got better things to do. Best you can do is ignore , forgive and forget. You don’t have to be friends with them again. But you can atleast avoid being enemies.Remember after all nobody is perfect in this world.

Try forgiving –it’s a great feel. By forgiving you are giving that person a second chance. You are being a good example. Its not about them,it shows how strong you are.

Above all you will get back you long last treasure- PEACE.

So no more “Dei indha naalu..un diary la kurichi vachika!!” 





P.S: Forgiving means setting a prisoner free and learning that prisoner was YOU.


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